Truly Amazing

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  1. I’m so sorry. I wish we as a Nation would do more to help the men & women who volunteer to protect our freedom and defend our constitution and suffer for it. I am grateful that you found the strength to understand, and I hope he found peace in his actions. I hope you know there are millions of us who mourn with you, who smile in the remembrance of brilliant, kind, generous patriotic heroes, who wish and try to do better by those who serve. Rest easy in knowing, You will see him on the other side.

    C

  2. I’m so sorry. I wish we as a Nation would do more to help the men & women who volunteer to protect our freedom and defend our constitution and suffer for it. I am grateful that you found the strength to understand, and I hope he found peace in his actions. I hope you know there are millions of us who mourn with you, who smile in the remembrance of brilliant, kind, generous patriotic heroes, who wish and try to do better by those who serve. Rest easy in knowing, You will see him on the other side.

    C

  3. Sarah, I just got through the 2nd year…I read your story and thought of how one gets through this? People often say time will heal. Not sure of that. Larry was an LSO talker on the USS Kitty Hawk and loved every moment of it. When he retired he worked for United Airlines. He could fix anything! He went went into the hospital on October 19, 2010 and nine days later he was gone. We had no children, I, no family…so it goes. Yes I cry, but I talk to him all the time and I know he talks to me. Our love ones can let us know they are still here if we will just listen. I still hold fast to the flag I was handed the day they buried him…His body may have died, but he is still here. Sarah, your husband sounds like he loved you so much…hold tight to that.

  4. Dear Sarah, Your letter broke my heart and I’m so sorry that you both had to go through this terrible tragedy at such a young age. Even though I was married for almost 22yrs to my retired Navy Chief and he was 20 yrs older than myself, I can fully understand what you dealt with for the short time your husband was retired. Mine served stateside during the Vietnam era training many recruits who never made it home and carried that guilt with him every single day. Our 3 young children couldn’t understand the mood swings because PTSD was unheard of during his career. Only I “got it” and would make excuses for him. He never blamed the Navy for disregarding his hypertension. It eventually killed him very suddenly. I’m 54yrs old and it’s been almost 3 yrs now and I still talk to him every day. My oldest son is just a little younger than your husband. Please make sure you look into every benefit you’re entitled to as the proud widow of the fine young man you married. Make sure you apply for Dependent Indemnity Compensation (DIC) because he was disabled. Put in for the Dependent’s Educational Assistance you and your kids are eligible for as the widow of a disabled military member. You can all go to college and receive a stipend of almost $950.00 per month in addition to financial aid and still keep your monthly DIC check. DIC is usually twice the amount of regular SBP retirement and you will be reimbursed for any premiums paid while he was alive. If you have any questions about the info I’ve given you please feel free to contact me through my email address at “athing4palmtree@aol.com” and I’ll be more than happy to answer any questions you have about these benefits because the Dept of Veteran’s Affairs will have you pulling your hair out of your head. You sound like a very strong young lady and I know you will get through this. Please take care of yourself for your children, they need you very much.

  5. Sarah,

    How close to home your story touched me! My beloved husband Doug, died the day before your wonderful hero, on March 25, 2012. He also shot himself but unfortunately, in our home and I found him. Although he did not have the severity of problems as your husband, I do believe that he did also suffer from PTSD and as a result, depression. He injured his back when he was in the Air Force 30 years ago, underwent 3 surgeries, and I’m not sure he ever got any relief. I too feel insurmountable guilt and anguish that I had no idea and that I couldn’t help him and be with him at the worst. I long for that last kiss, because I didn’t get one before I went to walk the dog…..

    They are both in a much better place, and happy, and pain-free. I try to keep that in my mind. I miss my Doug with an intensity that is immeasurable. I pray for some peace for you and your children, and me and our children. God Bless you! You are an amazingly strong woman!!! I will be praying for you and your family!

  6. I realize that you chose the title to describe Trey, but it describes his wife well. I will be praying for you and your family.

    He promised to love you the rest of his life, and did

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