There Are All Types of Military Widows

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  1. My father was a WWll vet and though he never committed suicide when he came back from the Pacific, everyone that knew him said he wasn’t the same person when he came home. He and my mother had three more kids (myself being the last) before he just left home. No warning, no reason. Fortunately my paternal grandparents stepped in & kept us so my mother could get a job. War really is hell & most military men won’t talk about things they endured. You seem like a very positive person and I know that bodes well for your daughter. God bless you. You are in my prayers.

  2. Megan, I am so very sorry for your loss…it sems more and more I hear of our miltry men not getting the treatment they need…over worked is not good enough for me. I too lost my husband. It will be 2 1/2 years next month, but it often feels like yesterday. You are not alone…email me if you like

  3. Our stories are very similar. I’m so sorry you had to experience this pain. It’s a loss only few can understand and it is so difficult to explain to those who haven’t lived it. I’m glad you found the AWP, that you are seeking counseling and that you and your little one are safe. Bless you and thanks for sharing your story.

  4. Megan,

    Your story made me cry! I am so sorry for your loss, but in many ways, I can relate, which is something I don’t get much of, in spite of the fact that I live in a hugely military community. Although my husband had not been in the military for many years, his PTSD finally was what killed him, what made him too, turn to suicide. I can relate to the problems with the VA as my husband suffered from back pain for 30 years and although he had several surgeries over the years, they never really got rid of the pain that he suffered while he was in EOD training.

    You are much stronger than I am. His anniversary is coming up and I am literally back to a year ago and have no idea how to get through this month. I try to stay positive, and try to keep our blended family’s kids positive but it’s not easy.

    I commend you and pray for you. Thank you for sharing and feel free to contact me( kmiles0804@gmail) if you want to talk!!

  5. I had a patient at Moncrief hospital Ft Jackson. She was a recent widow. (Husband suicide) She had never heard about AWP. Our hospital chaplain spoke to her and we gave her the link to this great organization.
    Please keep up the good work!
    We have a good friend in Columbia named Taryn Davis and I have told her about AWP founder with the same name.

  6. Megan, I found your story will enlisting on Twitter. I am so very sorry for your loss and for what you have had to go through. I am the widow of an Army retiree to whom I was married for 35 years. Was your husband receiving VA disability for his PTSD? If so, do you qualify for VA Benefits? Many women do not know what their benefits are. Are you familiar with the organization Gold Star Wives of America which is made up of military widows? It does not have to be an active duty death to qualify for benefits, but the service member does have to have been 100 o/o totally and permanently disabled by the VA. I have heard many stories of women being denied benefits by the VA when they do in fact deserve them. I wish you blessings, Sandy

    1. Hi Megan,

      Sorry for your loss..I am in the same boat. My husband passed 3 years ago on active duty and I have our 4 year old child, who is a blessing. I am trying to find another widow who is in my shoes to ask regarding the SBP benefit we receive. I am in the process of filling out my paperwork for that and unsure whether to elect Spouse/Child option or Child only option. I know we get more if we elect child only but it ends at 18 or 22. The SSIA entitlement has not been extended passed year 2017 so there is no way to know if that will be there. What did you elect and why?? I need advice from someone else (another widow)…thank you so much and take care.

  7. Megan, your story is my story. I’m so sad for all of us who have been through this. Our vets are finally at peace. But I too am left wondering if I could have done one more thing, fought with one more official to get him help, or demanded harder. It’s almost a year for me and I wonder when it gets easier, but I’m glad I’m not alone.

  8. Sandra,
    He had just received his VA rating about a week before he passed. My daughter and I are receiving DIC and Social Security, and I get SBP as well, and they are currently looking at whether I can claim a life insurance policy payout. They said he was automatically entered into the policy when they made his rating. Not sure if we’ll get that yet, but the lady I talked to seemed to think it was about 95% that I will. I have not heard of the Gold Star Wives of America, I will look them up now. I had only recently found TAPS and AWP so I’m slowly reaching out more.

  9. Hi Karen,
    I’m so sorry we are in similar situations, it’s not one I ever thought I would have to be in, as I’m sure you didn’t either. I’m not sure how strong I’m being lately, the one year anniversary is in a couple days and I’m having a rough time trying to deal with it.

  10. Megan i have a very similar story as your, right now am very sad am with three kids but no husband, i felt like my lost was just yesterday, my husband’s family have rejected my children and i and also deprive as of our rights, the oldest among them is 9 yrs. am very lonely, sad and measurable. do not know what to do i need someone to talk to. please anyone can write to me on bye.

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